WOMEN: Don't accept abuse
MEN: Keep ya hands to yaself!
I was in an abusive relationship before. When the abuse first started, it just pissed me off like "did this nigga really just put hands on me?!? but then it turned into fear like "oh my God, this nigga's gonna kill me..." Don't let it get to that point. The very first time a man puts hands on you in anger - don't think twice - leave and do Not go back to him. No matter how much he pleads & apologizes & promises (cause there will be promises) don't cave in because a man who hits you once will hit you twice then three times and the cycle continues.
The connections you two have, the good times, the amazing sex, whatever it is that holds you there is not worth your life. You tell your friends and even him sometimes that he don't treat you right and that you don't need to take all his crap - So why do you stay?? Because he SAYS he loves you and can't live without you and how much he needs you? Well, has he consistently SHOWED you? Don't try and lie to yourself and answer "yes" cause you know the real answer. He may "act right" for a week or two, sometimes even a whole month, after you threaten to leave him, but then he always does the "same o $#*@!" You've used that same phrase your own self at least a few times and you know it.
So, Miss Thang, you got to open your eyes and really see what's in front of you. Open your eyes and see that you're worth so much more than that! And girl, it don't matter that you've had ho-tendencies; it don't matter if you really did sleep with his homeboy; or if you did a double take when you seen that fine, light skin brotha in the check-out line at wal-mart. No REAL man should ever lay hands on a female out of anger. A nigga that puts hands on a woman ain't nothin but a PUNK -------- period.
And if you a nigga and you readin this and get mad at my words, then I just pin pointed one of them punks. All I got to say to you is KEEP YA HANDS TO YASELF! Go take your anger out on a brick wall; or if you the type that likes to choke a female out, go find a cactus to squeeze on. Be a REAL man; you might actually start to feel better about yourself if you wansn't beatin up on folk. Think first! Just cause you know she'll stay quiet about it - ain't gon call the police - don't mean you should treat her like ya mama ain't taught you nothin. And if your mama wasn't around to let you know, you has a grandmama or auntie - somebody - to let you know that "you don't hit girls." And if THAT don't apply to you either, well, I'M tellin you - don't be beatin up on women!
Author: you already know ; ) Ariel Payne - age 22
You speak the truth! Girls and women need to hear this. Thanks Ariel <3
ReplyDeletedamn this is soooo deep....youve always talked to me about relationships like this..and to tell you the truth i look your words and ran wit it....thanks ariel
ReplyDeleteAriel, you are so right. So wise for someone so young. I also think it is important when a woman finds herself in an abusive relationship to seek help from a professional or caring friend. Thank you for sharing. I love the blog page so creative as well as helpful.
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